\u201cIn my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough,\u201d Mr. Perlman says. \u201cBut I am not such a parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don\u2019t snuff it out, don\u2019t be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others forget us sooner than we\u2019d want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of 30 and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything\u2014what a waste!\u201d<\/p>\n
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